Positive Energy Guide

I’d like to share a fun story that shows how literally and dramatically congruence influences energy. This story is also a good example of using energy as guidance, and to direct guidance: My friend Sarina (name changed), and I, had been doing some energy work on one another. We decided to take an infrared sauna […]

Are we fully congruence when we are in conflict about whether or not we want to be in relationship with someone who is not as congruent as we are? I believe the answer depends on the extend to which we are willing to embrace this inner conflict, and whether we are willing and able to […]

One way to work on yourself is by being present in the body. Another way is by expanding the heart. A third way is by quieting the mind. The wise person finds a way to work on all three at the same time. (Understanding the Enneagram, 327) The above quote speaks to developing a state […]

Conflicts express lack of congruence. What is congruence? Being congruent means being aligned with yourself without conflict between different internal factions. Congruence is a state of accord. When our thoughts, feelings, and actions are congruent we are Present and in an integrated state. We do not give mixed, confusing messages to others. We receive clear […]

The shadow side of needing Guidance involves our inner conflicts about receiving direction. OWNING these conflicts is essential to clarity. Sometimes my Guidance directs me to do something I don’t feel like doing at the time. This thing could be huge or almost trivial. Oddly, moment-to-moment directives can feel more intense than Guidance about major […]

“True freedom is freedom from the compulsion and resistance that bind us to unfulfilled pasts and imagined futures.”  TD The process of reaching for Guidance promotes deep self-awareness. That’s one thing it’s for. In this post we explore the shadow side of reaching for Guidance. Let’s put on our hip-high boots and venture in to […]

What types of issues should we address with Guidance? Are some kinds of issues better addressed through ordinary means? These questions arise as we practice applying Guidance in daily life. They make a good inquiry–IF we think outside the box. This kind of question often springs from and reinforces a certain kind of thinking. This […]

“Vagueness about things” turns potential Guidance into word soup. Following from quote in the last post, it will be simplest to touch in with the way dishonesty impacts our relationship with truth before exploring vagueness: Dishonesty sounds fairly straightforward. Being completely honest can be confounding. This is because honesty depends on authenticity. Full authenticity requires […]

Accurate Guidance depends on being able to get to what is true. In this sub-series we dive into interior processes that support or undermine clear Guidance. I’ve had difficulty deciding whether or not to share one of my favorite quotes. I was concerned that some of you might shut down instead of reading all the […]

When someone gives us “guidance,” we are required to discern whether what they tell us is actual Guidance or merely information, opinion, or projection. For information to be guidance it must correspond to your actual needs. The ability to read someone’s fields does not prepare someone to step into the role of Guide. Those who […]