Positive Energy Guide

How to Avoid Being Vampire Bait

Recognizing “vampire” behavior patterns and “victim” patterns that invite being drained will help keep you out of a relationship that sucks. You deserve to thrive in a loving relationship. This text addresses predisposing issues that attract people who draw energy.

Let’s address the internal social isolation and alienation that lead to being susceptible to vampires.

If you feel that almost no one understands you:

• Develop more skill in communicating who you are
• Give people time to learn
• Allow others to learn through their mistakes, just as you do
• Assume good will while talking to iron out misunderstandings
• Let others know what they need to know about you for you to feel understood
• Seek out friends who have had similar experiences
• Quit taking what people do personally
• Cherish and focus on the friends who CAN understand you
• Hold an open place in your heart for more excellent friends and seek to recognize them when they show up in your life

Relaxing Your Needs:

• Be authentic and vulnerable in your friendships, knowing that you will lose the ones that don’t fit for you while finding deep and loving friendships.
• Develop a support network.
• Contemplate the differences between love and dependency.
• Get perspective by imaging about what would be left in your relationship if sex wasn’t a part of it.
• Contemplate the impact of flattery
• Make intentional decisions about your relationship choices based on solid criteria
• Learn to recognize the feeling in your body when someone begins to draw your energy.
• Consider the effects of your relationship on your life goals over time.
• Study the criteria for personality disorders if you are in a relationship with someone who may have one. (See links in Part 5)

On needing to feel special and different:
Relax that! Everybody is.
Practice valuing your authenticity and allowing yourself to be loved by those who are naturally compatible with you. Concern yourself less about how you are seen by strangers.

On needing to be protected:
Learn how to feel safe in your body. Learning to feel safe may take assistance from skilled healers or therapists. The experience of safety depends on our how we hold our energy.

On being loving:
Ditch the belief that it is spiritual to endure pain and abuse and remain loving. Yes, it is spiritual to love all of life, but that doesn’t mean you have to stick around. Love from farther away! You’re responsible to love yourself first.

Do you know anyone in a relationship that drains their vital forces? Please comment.

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