Positive Energy Guide

Why Vampires are Popular and What they have to do with Healing

The Vampire Mystique has become increasingly popular because it resonates with real life experiences that impact vast numbers of people. In this post series I present important insights and tools that apply to relationships in general, and troubled relationships in particular.

Please read this entire post series and pass it on to those who need it.

Positive relationships become possible by learning to recognize and avoid the energy dynamics in unhealthy relationships. Valuing yourself enough to recognize and protect yourself from relationships that drain you is a huge key to positive energy.

In vampire dramas, the persons being courted by the vampires tend to be young people who are alienated from society, lacking deep, authentic contacts with others. So-called friends—with whom they rarely share their authentic selves, may surround these individuals, who feel alone deep inside. Of course there are heaps of victims who simply die as food. Their deaths feature very little into the drama.

Movies like New Moon are generally aimed at and appeal to teens and preteens. At this stage of development, when sexuality is first emerging, our needs and fears tend to be frightening and unclear to us.

Let’s look at those who are courted. Vampires protect the special ones they court. Watching someone learn, or trying to learn to become strong enough to maintain boundaries that prevent being damaged, even in the face of desire, is a positive lesson if we are not sure how to manage these boundaries ourselves.

Vampire dramas, depending on one’s personality, resonate with the following feelings and desires, most of which operate without conscious awareness:

• Fear of and desire to be open and vulnerable in a love relationship
• Intense need to be wanted
• Fear of or ambivalence about emerging sexuality
• Fear of losing your sense of self in pleasure or relationship
• Confusion about healthy boundaries
• Desire for a tight-knit family that resists intrusion from the outside world
• An unhealed need to feel protected by a powerful being who loves and wants us
• Identification with being different instead of giving in to society
• A need to feel special and different, powerful and invulnerable
• The need to be understood, recognized, and valued with all your weaknesses
• Belief that getting needs met diminishes the giver
• Fear of abandonment in love with craving for eternal connection
• Need to feel a sense of dignity about needs, of which one is ashamed
• Desire to submit without having to take responsibility for your desire

A number of these are common in young teens. Some of the above are basic human needs that someone who drains energy from others may exploit if we let them. Read the rest of the series to find out how and why this occurs and what to do about it.

Have you ever met anyone who drained your energy more than you thought possible? What part of you allowed it?