Life Guidance Series Part 16: Making Good Decisions Part 1, Internal Alignment
Decision making is absolutely central to guidance. Let’s revisit the topic:
The act of decision making is a foundational skill for giving or receiving guidance. Being a good guide–starting with ourselves–rests on making clear, well-timed, insightful decisions.
Internal Guidance, guiding others, and receiving any type of guidance require the ability to transform mere information into viable guidance. This shift occurs when we recognize the specific relevance of the information we take in and respond by making an internal decision. We decide to take in the guidance and to use it or pass it along. After this we can use it to improve or direct our lives or the lives of others.
Deciding to receive or apply guidance is an internal action. This action activates the stream of Guidance as we begin to attend to incoming messages. Even perfect Guidance may prove be useless if we do not respond with some kind of inner decision.
What is the difference between making a good decision and Guidance?
Ordinary guidance is a process by which we may come to a decision. Spiritual Guidance can deliver decisions without clunky mental processes. It’s as if they drop into place whole. For this to occur we have to be willing and able to recognize it, receive it and respond. And we need to be ready. Willingness to respond can be a sticky wicket, which we’ll pursue in subsequent posts.
What is a good decision?
A good decision:
- Is something you are actually able to do
- Is appropriate for the time, energy, will, concentration, and other resources you have available
- Changes how you feel: relieved; more peaceful; inspired; realistically excited; clear, etc.
- Creates a sense of resolved openness regarding what you intend to do
- Feels right in your body and heart
- Gives you a sense of forward momentum or ease as needed
- Gives you some sense what your next steps may be
- Feels like your very best option at this particular time
Decisions might be made:
- As a reaction to circumstances and conditions, without reflection
- As a reaction to past events, projected into the future; an attempt to avoid dealing with something that occurred before
- Because you feel you must, like paying your taxes
- As an expression of emotion; pulling toward or away from something or someone
- From a purely practical standpoint like going to the store when you need food
- With the future in mind, like getting your oil changed
- From a sense of obligation like paying back something owed
- From an intuitive sense of what seems right
Consider the process of making a good decision. It involves bring ourselves to bear on the matter at hand, with focus and intention.
Arguably, the most important element of decision making is internal alignment. Internal alignment is the element that takes decision making into the realm of Guidance. The more deeply and completely we are able to get in tune with ourselves and feel connected with the universe the more powerful and meaningful will be our decisions.
While there are many ways, such as prayer, meditation, qi gong, energy exercises, yoga, and so forth, to get in touch with ourselves, all of these practices are essential simply training wheels for life itself, lived in the present.
The very act of making a decision can be in itself a simple exercise of becoming fully present, aligning with the intention to bring your best forward, and choosing to act with clarity and intent. Bringing aligned intention and attention to daily decisions is a way to live with meaning. This practice greatly enhances Guidance skills.
What do YOU rely on when reaching for an important decision?