24 September 2010 9 Comments

What IS Positive Energy? Part 3: Moving Beyond Opposites

Sept 07 Alberta 2 289Words can easily trap us into either/or thinking. (See Part 1.) I recently saw a video encouraging people to consider whether we are direct and harsh or indirect and compassionate toward others. Having spent years cultivating the combination of being direct AND compassionate, I took objection. Being indirect is not necessarily considerate. It can stem from weakness just as easily as from grace, and can cause confusion. The video made excellent and useful points. I am not tossing it out, just adding an important footnote.

Do not be seduced by wording that presents either/or choices like voting for the lesser of evils or “Have-you-stopped-beating-your-wife” conundrums. Life is almost always ‘multiple choice’—even if you have to write in your own choices. Dump black and white and go for fuchsia, teal, and indigo. Life has an amazing palette. Live in full color! Keep your options open for wholeness.

Let’s take a larger perspective. From an all-embracing perspective, all energy is positive. It is ultimately positive to embrace All, orienting ourselves within circumstances to make the best use of them.

When we try to talk about positive experience with non-polar language (see Part 1) we find ourselves left with abstract words like “wholeness” or super-charged words like “love.” Note that Love is wholly positive only when we mean it in its non-dual, all-embracing sense. Love that is the opposite of hate may contain sticky attachment, desire, neediness, possessiveness, and so forth, aimed at the things we prefer. All-embracing Love requires and refers to an expanded heart-centered state of acceptance, unity, and grace.

Seeking words that embrace and unite the limiting opposites gets more and more abstract as it rises above day-to-day experience. Words like God show up.

But now someone will throw the Devil in the mix in order to get an opposite for God-the-All-Embracing. This penchant for insisting on an opposite maintains the mentality of polarity.

Yes, polarity is real. Right now, we’re talking about moving past it. States beyond polarity are also real.

I believe that something in the Cosmos is Beyond all these opposites, holding It All together, and that we come closer to accessing the loving state of clarity that accepts life fully by releasing the tendency to think in opposites alone.

One of the chief aims for any method designed to expand awareness is coming to comprehend life as an integrated and beautiful whole, beyond and above this reflex of splitting life and perception into opposing polarities.

Polarities serve to wake us up through experience. Polarities offer us the possibility of discernment through contrast. They assist us to see the differences between things and to learn to make choices that further our aims.

Opposites are processes. Unity is the ultimate goal.

In the world of choices and polarity, whether energy has a positive, negative or neutral effect depends on what we DO with it and whether we CAN embrace it. Like dissonance in music, unpleasant and difficult energies stimulate awareness and promote clarity–when we are able to put them to use.

In much the same way that super-healthy foods can cause a health crisis in those with toxic diets, anSept 07 Alberta 2 269intense dose of angelic energies may provoke challenging reactions in those who are not prepared for an acceleration of awareness. The dynamics between polarities, including balance/neutrality, form the dance of life. When we see life as a process of discovery and possibility, almost any experience can be put to positive use.

Note: I am not denying or minimizing horrific experiences that are shattering. I am just saying that in our daily lives we can almost always discover ways to orient ourselves that allow us to find even difficult experience useful.

Even total positive energy can have an effect we consider negative if we are not able to embrace it.

All energy is good if we are equipped to put it to good use.

How have YOU turned energies or experiences that you used to judge or dislike into allies?

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9 Responses to “What IS Positive Energy? Part 3: Moving Beyond Opposites”

  1. Therese 24 September 2010 at 7:57 am #

    In the world of Feldenkrais Practitioners, Moshe Feldenkrais has been attributed with saying, “There is no choice when there are only 2 options. There must be at least 3 options, from which to choose, in order to have a choice.” I began using this way of thinking for myself. While it is often quite difficult to come up with a 3rd option sometimes, I find the 3rd option opens up a whole new world of thinking to me that allows me to become more calm and peaceful. It takes me out of the fight or flight mode of oppositional thinking. Once I find the 3rd option, often there are many other options which present themselves. Regardless, the 3rd option represents freedom in my thinking so I always look for it.

    • Teresa Dietze 24 October 2010 at 3:20 pm #

      I LOVE this brief and clear encapsulation. Thank you for sharing this.

  2. Greg 24 September 2010 at 9:10 am #


    Developing the ability to step away from the emotionally charged situation and trying to view both sides of it. To see what the truth is can be challenging. In that moment comes the truth about what the situation has given me to learn about myself or the other person or the whole event as a process of moving from judgement to seeing how it will further my seeing the truth in the moment. How may I use the situation to move ahead in none judgement that benefits all involved? Once I get plugged in to a situation it is difficult to see all sides. I may not reach a point of clarity untill way after the situation has ended and I reflect back.


    • Teresa Dietze 24 October 2010 at 3:26 pm #

      Truth is less, in my opinion, a perspective, and more an Alignment with Self, or a set of sensations that I associate with Being inwardly aligned with my highest option in the moment. It morphs as I am able to hold a larger view.

      Looking a different angles (“angles” leaves more dimensional space than “sides,” as concepts go) is an exercise in Becoming. We expand by practicing perspective. Sensing our personal Truth in a given moment involves leaving mere concept and grounding experience through sensation.

      At least, this is what strikes me as I read and consider just now. . .

      What do YOU think of this Greg?

    • Teresa Dietze 24 October 2010 at 3:28 pm #

      I agree, Greg. It takes perspective and openness to unplug enough to get past judging and see what benefits all. That, in itself, is a spiritual practice. Remembering to do so it perhaps the most important part.

  3. S. Michael Long 6 July 2012 at 11:17 pm #

    You want to talk about truth.. this guy says it all.. I have been stuck in a box with my writing for YEARS… I never thought of thinking in beige, or maroon, or grey…. I have always written in black and white.. I wonder.. how marvelous is a world that thinks in a pallet of colors, and not just in black and white.. i have to be careful here though.. in the past i have dealt with family issues in a variety of colors.. which caused my downfall.. but what if.. i could write in a variety of colors.. perhaps that could be my upbringing? (: how is that for colorful use of words? words i have never fathomed incorporating into balance (i normally would have used measure) Love this post! great work friend -s

    • Teresa Dietze 9 July 2012 at 10:58 pm #

      Thank you S Michael. 🙂

      This is a very important topic. It’s nice to have someone notice and be able to speak to it.


  4. S. Michael Long 6 July 2012 at 11:39 pm #

    I have spent an enormous amount of my time attempting to write for a black and white weak world while all along, I was writing against, something multicolored and bulletproof.

    • Teresa Dietze 9 July 2012 at 11:00 pm #

      I like “multicolored and bulletproof.”

      I tried for many years to write against this and that. Finally writing FOR something, I became able to find my true voice.


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