21 July 2017 2 Comments

The Heart and the Head

“Love is always the answer. Love comes forth from the heart and the head is never involved. When I’m coming from Love, I feel it in my expanding heart. As soon as I begin thinking, I know I have stepped out of Love. Love is always a feeling. Love is pure and unencumbered, it can be nothing else.”  ~Therese

Given that we are discussing real love, yes, it is the only satisfying answer to most conundrums. Love addresses most emotional needs at their core and paves roads to harmony. Love creates an atmosphere in which wisdom can flourish—which the head on its own cannot do.

I would like to expand on “the head is never involved.” I hold Therese’s comment to be true for those who like herself are grounded in genuine love, who can access love through sensing and feeling. This love is indeed pure and unencumbered, and does not require the head.P1150315

When the head functions with respect for the heart, operating on the directives of the heart, there is no error.

When we are not able to access real love, we become more prone to confusion. Passions and reactive emotion become confused or entangled with real love. Resulting emotionally-based directives may be unwise and cause complications if we act on them. Real love may be present, but it has become mixed with need, mixed motivations (such as trying to please people, which is often a subtle type of control), lust, cultural or religious conditioning, and so forth.

Buried wounds create confusion about love. The deepest wound that virtually everyone shares is separation from the Divine.

When we try to love or to act in right and virtuous ways, these efforts can be more about trying to be worthy of love or to obtain it than they are about actual love itself. Pure love leads naturally to virtuous action. Trying hard to be virtuous can be a defense against feeling there is something wrong with us, or against feeling unworthy. We may assume that love must be earned, that we are inherently flawed, or that love is not natural and abundant.

Conditional approval—social, peer or parental—must not be confused with love, or sought as a substitute. Ultimately, that will not work. To heal ourselves we need to be able to generate and absorb real love, deeply into the places that drive our quests for approval from the outside.

In the patterns mentioned above we see that head efforts—including our interpretation of events and our self-assessments—often distract us from going directly to love itself.

One good use of the head in all this is to make different distinctions such as discerning love from not-love. Once we can FEEL love directly, making these distinctions is no longer necessary. We can just tell, without a lot of process. It gets obvious. Before we have identified real love, or purified our love, learning to step back and observe our personal motivations assists with developing discernment. Discernment allows us to move with wisdom.

Being balanced and healthy requires using all three centers—head, heart, and body— to think, feel and sense at the same time, integrating the functions of these centers. When the centers are in balance and used in concert together, intuition and wisdom become much more available, and pure love is significantly easier to access.

When you are challenged or confused about love, what is going on for you?

Is this primarily about motivations, needs, ideas about what you ‘should be’ feeling, an imbalance between your three centers, or something else?

Is there one center you overuse or underuse?

How does this habit of Being impact your relationship with love?

Thank you, Therese, for the inspiration. 🙂

Be sure to catch Kelly’s comment under last week’s post. It’s as if she put in life-situation examples for all of concepts in this post.

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2 Responses to “The Heart and the Head”

  1. Therese Sandhage 21 July 2017 at 7:19 am #

    “The deepest wound that virtually everyone shares is separation from the Divine.” I love this statement. I’ve often said, “I don’t believe I’ve met anyone who doesn’t have abandonment issues.” When seen from the perspective of separation from the Divine, my observation makes a whole lot of sense. Very few people are strongly connected to the Divine at all times. I know I’m not. The connection with the Divine is everything. We need it, we crave it.

    I know I haven’t answered any of your questions. This deep understanding of why I miss Home (Home is the Divine connection) so much has hit me so deeply no other questions are relevant to me at this time. Thank you! I always Love how simple observations can have such dramatic effects.

    With Love,

    • Teresa Dietze 21 July 2017 at 9:42 am #

      That, my Dear, is indeed the most important sentence. It seems abstract to those who have not located and identified the emotions and sensations, but we’ve all got it. And yes, it is ourselves who disconnect. Our defense structures all involve some sort of disconnection.

      I know you experience it with awareness, so I did think of you when I wrote it, readily, since I was spinning off of your comment.

      Glad you took it to a useful place. And glad you’re you so that I can rift off what you say and feel collaboration instead of walking on eggshells.



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