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2 September 2014 3 Comments

Managing Your Energy, Part 17: Becoming Open to Love

Managing Your Energy, Part 17: Becoming Open to Love

Let’s talk about something before I continue my story: When we hear about especially positive experiences, some of us feel shame, inadequacy, longing, or even annoyance.

Almost all of us have issues about being included. Reading about my experiences of healing in group situations may bring up issues for some of you. Alienation, envy, feeling abandoned, etc. can arise when we hear about other people’s connections. If we would like to feel happy for them, we may feel confused if this discomfort comes up.

If someone has connections we long for we may become ensnared in preconceptions about other people’s relationships, recalling previous traumas and losses. Reactions and relationship issues usually originate with early family dynamics. As a teen or preteen, most of us also found trying to fit in painful. Feeling unwelcome in and unvalued by groups hurts.

Like a reflex, we learn to automatically exclude ourselves as a kind of self protection. Self protection isolates us more when we most want to connect. What is called for instead is careful discernment about WHICH groups and individuals to connect with. We also need self-connection and self-nurturing in group situations, and a compassionate sense of when to gently withdraw.

P1070893It is my sincere hope that I can transmit a whiff of the healing experiences I’ve been going through, as I share them with you. I am including you!

If something comes up for you when you read about positive experiences, notice what arises. What do they ‘ping’ in you?

Welcome any discomfort and use it as a guide. The nature of your distress will give you clues as to what you need to heal.

Your distress calls out for sweetness and compassion.

Expanding our relationship to love helps extricate us from the mire caused by our histories. There are different types of love. As we open our hearts, we become more inclusive. We learn to allow ourselves to be open to love connections that have little to do with personality or personal relationships. Since our wounds are highly personal, we become open to sharing a Love that is more universal.

In inclusive and healthy spiritual groups, interaction may have little to do with personality. Love connections arise naturally, in the moment– usually without people seeking to secure it into their personal lives. We feel love and connection during an event, and sometimes an ongoing ‘heart connection’ that we enjoy if we see one another. We understand that this has little to do with relationship. We may ALSO develop friendships.

Personal connections take time–and involve karma. Relationships that involve a degree of binding exist for various purposes. They bring up and allow us to work with personality issues.

In spiritual work, the personality is a vehicle for development of the soul.

Those who attend inclusive spiritual events are not exempt from difficult feelings. Some feel intense after-event let-down. Some feel residual longing for heart connection in their daily lives, and feel frustrated in their relationships, or lack of the same.

How to open to love and deal with longing:

  • Expand your ideas about what Love is. Acknowledge, recognize and enjoy love connections that are not personal. For example, savor a passing smile shared with a child.
  • Notice love you feel for some strangers as you drive by. The more you let Love flow the more connected you will feel to life.
  • Let your love have less to do with something personal and exclusive.
  • Practice allowing yourself to give and receive love in total freedom, without attempting to create personal relationships unless they feel totally ‘right.’ The kind of love I am talking about does not create binding. It is not personal emotion as much as Cosmic Connection.
  • Allow the energy of a loving event to carry forth into your life, using it to fuel any changes you need to make to be more open to love.
  • Increase your awareness of people you love and respect with whom you are not in regular contact. Feel your hearts and spirits connecting through links of light that criss-cross the globe.
  • Focus your longing for love into your spiritual life.
  • Breathe in and out of your heart center.
  • Seek to generate spiritual Love and bring it forth from yourself. As we learn to radiate it, we do not experience an absence.

Please feel free to share your thoughts and feelings about this topic.

What comes up for YOU and what do you do you to manage it?

 

WITH THAT MOON LANGUAGE

Admit something:
Everyone you see, you say to them, “Love me.”

Of course you do not do this out loud,
Otherwise someone would call the cops.

Still though, think about this, this great pull in us to connect.

Why not become the one who lives with a full moon
In each eye that is always saying,
With that sweet moon language,

What every other eye in this world
Is dying to hear?

Hafiz

27 June 2014 4 Comments

Managing Your Energy, Part 8: Spiritual Exercise in Self, Sensing & Safety

Managing Your Energy, Part 8: Spiritual Exercise in Self, Sensing & Safety

Balanced development has requirements of which we may be unaware. When we have difficulty growing in a desired direction, there may be a natural prerequisite. Profound states of awareness can lead to issues and distortion, for example, without the anchor and safety of grounded body awareness.

The story below explores the relationship between expansion of consciousness and body awareness:

After a number of hard knocks over a short period, it took me several days doing intensive practices while walking in the woods to access expanded awareness and open my heart. Expansion felt great after being so contracted for so long! By “expansion” I mean feeling LARGE, diffuse, blissful, extended into the space around me, and connected with all life.P1050630

I worked with my breath, energy, and divine names. With my energy fields expanded I noticed that my awareness seemed to extend for half a mile or so around me. When other hikers passed me I felt contracted. Some wanted to say “hi,” or had various issues active and running in their energy systems. Interfacing was uncomfortable.

I began to alternate between breathing into my hara/belly center and bones, and relaxing into expansion. I practiced pulling all the way into my body, resisting the almost inevitable pull to “leak” energy as soon as people showed up. I practiced keeping my energy contained. When I did this I picked up signals to the effect that people experienced me I as cold. Containment felt counter to my natural affability.

I now had to work through my feelings and judgments about allowing myself to separate from others when I need to. At first I felt that I must choose between being friendly and being intact. As I gained skill in alternating between my expanded state and anchoring in my belly, I became able to give people a moment of friendly contact and then pull my energy back in after they passed, noticing any leaking that may have begun to occur. (I’ve learned to relate openly without leaking when I’m working. Apparently doing it in passing is a different skill. I think that’s about wanting to connect quickly and going too deep too fast.)

As people passed, I returned to my expanded, fully-open state, letting myself spread out and feel connected with nature and life. If I stay that open at close range with people I still tend to pick Stuff up. This is getting less and less as I am able to maintain a strong anchor and quickly sort my energy out from theirs.

I look forward to being able to maintain expanded states and solid body awareness at the same time, experiencing unity without feeling entangled. Practicing states alternately is a good start.

When we habitually “read” the energy around us it can keep us in contracted states. We look out AT people and may feel invaded by them instead of feeling at One.  SENSING the energy is different than “reading” it. We just know, just feel, just sense. Sensing is less characterized by a sense of being the Doer. It is body centered, not mind centered.

It is easier to feel the heart from sensing than from thinking.

By Sensing we can feel connected without leaking or taking unwanted energy in. Simply sensing–without an overlay of thought– does not involve considerations about what might be. It stays with what IS. Sensing relies on body awareness AND energy awareness. The body becomes the anchor–but the whole boat is part of us too.

Which of the themes in this post do YOU connect with the most?

How aware are you of your energy responses to other people?

15 February 2014 3 Comments

Pearls from Pain, Part 6: Inquiring Within, Part 2

Pearls from Pain, Part 6: Inquiring Within, Part 2

Mastery with Inquiring Within makes us adept at sensing and reading energy.

P1040670While some of you may be well versed in personal and emotional inquiry, others may find trying to catch a glimpse of uncharted inner territory vague or even unnerving. The dance between awareness and subconscious processes is complex and fascinating. Each of us can discover new depths or previously-hidden facets.

No matter how committed we are to awareness, parts of ourselves can be wily and hide out. Active curiosity about how and why we hide things from ourselves is a positive stance. Interested engagement allows the neutral Observer or Witness part to do its magic, giving us non-reactive access to our inner worlds.

Here are some Inner Sensing Question Chains which may be useful for inquiring within:

What, exactly, am I actually sensing or feeling in this moment?
When did these sensations begin?
Where do I feel them in my body?
Exactly what sensations am I having?
Do these sensations seem to relate to any events, memories or particular emotions?
How would I describe them?
Do they change as I attend to them or describe them?
If these sensations express an emotion, what would it be?
What body posture am I in, or do I feel pulled toward?
If I saw someone else in this posture, what might they be feeling?

Did anything happen to bring up these sensations or feelings?
Do they feel in any way familiar?
When have I felt this before?
What was going on in my life at that time?
Did something remind me of an event from my past?
What similar feelings do I have now?

Did I react to something I recently heard or saw?
In what manner am I reacting?
What am I resisting?
What do I actually want?
Does my current reaction help or hinder getting what I really want?
Are there any actions I can take to increase my odds of getting what I want in a clean and direct way?

What is my energy doing in related areas of my body, chakras, and in my energy fields?
Are any areas congested, scattered, burdened, sparse, absent, patchy, locked up, over-amped, dull, or screaming intense?
What clues does my energy give me about what is going on inside me, and visa versa?

What other feeling is UNDERNEATH this feeling?
. . .  And underneath THIS feeling?
. . . And THIS one?
. . . And . . .

Where do I go inside when I encounter this feeling?
What do I make it mean about me that I feel this?
Is it true, or merely a biased interpretation or judgment?
What do I actually need when I feel this way?
Is there any chance I am trying to use this feeling or my reaction to it to try and get something I want?
How do I hope this resulting state will cause others to treat me?
How do these feelings cause me to treat myself?

When and where did I learn this pattern of behavior?
Does it work for me?
Is there a clear and direct way to get what I want?

Pay special attention to symptoms. Symptoms frequently mask denied emotion. Get curious about them, like looking underneath rocks to see what might be there.

Cultivating a positive relationship with our discomfort is a major key to self realization.

Diving into discomfort may not be cheery, but it creates access to the parts of ourselves and the reasons we need comfort. Naturally this leads to healing. Unlike pulling away, shutting down, or numbing out, awareness gives us REAL CHOICE.

Discomfort can been seen as a call for awareness.

Discomfort is an essential form of guidance.

If you may find it of assistance, feel free to copy the above question list and paste it into a file so you can print it out and refer to it. In the next post I will suggest related practices for self discovery.

What is YOUR typical response to discomfort?

How does this response serve you?

20 December 2013 5 Comments

LGS #98: When You Cannot Access Guidance, Part 2: Uncommon Sense Suggestions & Primary Sense

LGS #98: When You Cannot Access Guidance, Part 2: Uncommon Sense Suggestions & Primary Sense

Suppose you have tried all the interventions from Part 1 and you are still having trouble. Here are additional suggestions:

Find resource that works instead of attempting the channels that do not. If you usually get guidance from your inner voice, and that is not clear, try visualizing what would work for you, or sensing it. When one part of your brain is compromised, another part may rally.

  • Focus on self care.
  • Avoid pushing yourself or getting anxious, and soothe yourself while you wait out this period, knowing that guidance will return.
  • Withdraw from excess engagement with the outer world except for things that bring you energy. Spend time alone, sleep more, and allow yourself to dream.
  • Use your experience for growth. Avoid platitudes or belief systems (B.S.) that limit your inner exploration.
  • Sense into any emotional darkness or blind spots by staying open to new messages, or messages in new forms. Sometimes when we grow we get different inner guides or forms of guidance and they require a growing-in period.
  • Consider distress an invitation to deeper transformation.
  • Don’t force the positive or wallow in the negative but remain open to experience–without interpreting it according to personal preferences.
  • Surrender any resistance to reality. This does not mean giving up or giving in. It means actively reaching for acceptance of That Which Is. Resistance costs too much energy.
  • Seek the guidance of trusted advisors.
  • Try new things if they feel right.
  • Wait for the energy and/or external conditions to change.
  • Lean into your most important values.

One of my best friends died recently, from an extended illness. Even through her death was unexpected, she spent time in her last year exploring her spirituality, including life after death. As shocking as it was to lose her, something felt right about her timing. Pay attention to what you need to do.

DSC_0316Primary Sense

When guidance is rocky, return to your primary sense.

Our PRIMARY sense is simply sensing. Sensing means attending to what happens in your body. Just noticing is the core of all awareness. Sensing is basic, foundational, and primitive–in a good way.

A client wanted to learn to test products for himself. I handed him a poor quality nutritional supplement so he could sense the energy difference between this and an excellent product I gave him to compare. With the first product, he sensed inside, held his hand over his innards and said, “The energy feels sort of curdled.” This word described exactly what I sensed as well.

Sensing is one of the most powerful and overlooked forms of personal guidance. Its primary nature makes sensing less susceptible to distortion and more accessible than other forms of guidance.

When you are compromised and have trouble accessing guidance, simply sensing may work. Without knowing a direction, you can feel your way into something that works. Here is the process:

  • Meet the needs of your body as well as possible.
  • Find a moment when you can quiet your mind.
  • Relax your emotions, especially fears and desires.
  • Pay attention to your body and your energy sensations for a baseline.
  • Hold a clear intention or visualize a completed action and sense how you feel in your body, especially your heart and gut areas. (Examples: moving to a specific place, trying a particular treatment, taking a certain job.)

Tip: When you try this exercise, be specific about WHEN you are thinking of acting.–It matters.
How do you feel inside when you concentrate on your potential intention?
Compare several different possibilities and attend to your sensations.
Which one feels best?

What do YOU do when guidance is elusive?

Is your self talk supportive or unsupportive when you are having trouble?

7 December 2013 2 Comments

LGS #97: When You Cannot Access Guidance, Part 1: Tune Your Instrument

LGS #97: When You Cannot Access Guidance, Part 1: Tune Your Instrument

One of my readers asked: “What does a person who wants to take guidance-based action do when they can’t be sure they are clear? And they are not likely to get clear in the near future? Sitting on the edge of the pool until adult-swim is over is not an option.”

Since I am addressing all of you, I will answer generally. I will work up to addressing how to find proceed when we are seriously compromised and none of the usual interventions work.

When you are not sure you are clear, you might want to present your body and emotions with a series of tests, challenges, or checks to determine the source of interference. Getting ourselves clear is like tuning your instrument. Your body and energy are your instrument.

First check in with yourself to make sure you have had enough sleep, protein, and water. Low blood sugar or dehydration interfere significantly with clarity. If you are compromised, wait until you handle your basic needs before trying to access guidance.DSC_0379

Next consider whether or not you have been exposed to toxins or allergens. Toxins talk. They don’t have anything nice to say either! Exposure to toxins or allergens creates inflammation, which gets into the brain as well and compromises brain function. Try avoiding all potential allergens and chemical exposure when you need to get clear.

Emotional interference is important but difficult to address. Disentangling convoluted webs of self-sabotage and mixed motivations is advanced and complicated work. I cannot cover it here in total, but here are some places to start:

If you do muscle testing on yourself or another binary form of testing, make sure you are strong in response to the following statements. If you do not use testing, pay careful attention to your body and energy signals as you ask yourself the questions. You will notice that you contract, hold your breath, freeze up, or want to fidget when you are not congruent with a particular statement. Try these:

  • “I am willing to get clear guidance.”
  • “I am willing to be willing to get clear guidance.”
  • “I am willing to get clear guidance about my health.”
“I am willing to be willing to get clear guidance about my health.”
  • “I am unwilling to get inaccurate guidance about my health.”
  • “I am willing to be aware of all factors that may interfere with my health.”

You may need to ad-lib here to get to your exact issue. Try exchanging the word “safe” for the word “willing.” Also try “I have permission to,” and “deserve to. . . .”

Weakness in response to any of these questions indicates lack of congruence–inner conflict. Any lack of congruence represents active interference with, in this example, health. Inner conflict, which is often unconscious, will express itself in:

  • Making what is bad for you seem good
  • Making what is bad for you seem terribly appealing
  • Making what is good for you seem wrong or annoying
  • Blanking out or forgetting and doing things that don’t work for you
  • Feeling resistant to what you know you need
  • Making excuses or rationalizing ‘why’ you cannot do what you need to do
  • Seeking out friends or so-called experts who support misinformation that keeps you stuck or sick
  • Using someone, like a spouse, as a ‘reason’ you cannot do what you need
  • Setting clear intentions and then doing something else instead
  • Forgetting about what you decided to do

As you identify active patterns you need to find a way to clear them.

  • First: See them clearly. Pay attention to how they operate in you, without judging.
  • Second: Seek to understand and accept the feelings and needs involved with these patterns.
  • Third: If you can, use some type of energy-based therapy or technique to clear the related energy to make change easier, like EFT, Thoughtfield Therapy, Blindspot Technique, EMDR, etc. If you do not know how, just think about the patterns and flood yourself with clear light and positive energy, asking to release them.

Almost everyone benefits from assistance with this type of process. If you have significant underlying trauma or illness, or cannot trust yourself, getting help is essential.

Which part of this process do YOU find the most challenging?

What is it about this step that trips you up?

28 November 2013 1 Comment

Happy Thanksgiving!

Blessings for a relaxing and joyous holiday!

Appreciate simple things–and the process. We can find beauty even in a pile of dirty dishes!

If you’re stressed, gently observe what is coming up for you and invite yourself to make a compassionate response.

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10 November 2013 4 Comments

LGS #94, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 7: Clear Energy, Clear Information

LGS #94, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 7: Clear Energy, Clear Information

Whether we are beginning or advanced, whether we use protocols, body sensations, or intuitive sensing, discernment is considerably enhanced by keeping our energy clear.

Every type of guidance skill is only as reliable as the practitioner is clear. For accurate muscle testing, for example, it is essential to function as a clear instrument. The ability to get accurate information hinges on self-honesty. Authenticity, clarity and self-knowledge are essential to guidance skills.

Being clear about who we are and what we are doing goes a long way toward keeping our energy clean. When confusion or suppressed or unsettled emotions are roiling about, these conditions are expressed in our energy bodies. The resulting energy disturbances also cause energy that does not belong with us to be drawn to us, and to accumulate in related areas.

Energy in our fields ‘talks.’ It can sound like an inner voice, or feel like a particular motivation. You may feel like you want or need something, or ‘hear’ a voice expressing what you think is a personal emotion or desire. When you clear your energy this desire or voice immediately disappears, showing that it was an expression of accumulated energy, possibly from another source.

Boundary confusion exacerbates muddled energy. If we cannot tell whether an issue or an energy is our own or someone else’s, it is more likely to hang P1030233around.

When you use any kind of testing or discernment, notice whether you feel the least bit squirrelly. If you feel unclear, evasive, sly, disconnected, or a lack of continuity, clear yourself or stop until you can trust your information. Avoid testing when unclear. This helps to develop a groove of success, so you develop self trust. Begin with issues that are not highly charged, about which you do not feel conflict.

When I feel squirrelly, I do various tests on myself to discover whether or not I am able and willing to receive accurate information. I still need to do this if I am accessing something about which I have strong feelings or opinions. Detachment and ruthless self-observation are essential. The ability to unravel unconscious resistance to accurate information takes training, practice, and work with skilled practitioners.

Clear energy is necessary for clear perception. Compromised energy distorts perception. If you sense that your energy is not clear, try your discernment again when you feel more clear and focused.

These interventions can enhance clarity:

  • Spend fifteen or twenty minutes sitting on the ground or on a rock. The magnetics of the ground itself can clear and balance some energies.
  • Shower, with the intention of clearing your fields. Alternating warm and cold water can help. The colder the water the more it clears.
  • Make sure your blood sugar is balanced. Eat protein regularly.
  • Clear the rooms you spend time in. There are lots of techniques for this. In my extensive experience frankincense works best. (If you email a request I’ll send you detailed instructions.)
  • Practice Qi Gong to learn to generate, direct and recognize energy, or yoga to get your energy flowing more smoothly through your body.
  • Make sure your upper neck is in place. Misalignment can make you foggy.
  • Avoid toxins such as alcohol, drugs, allergens, pesticides and chemicals. Resulting inflammation creates brain fog.
  • Relax any emotional reactivity or over-concern about others, including criticism.
  • When you need your clarity, visualize cutting and releasing all psychic connections and “cords” (sticky energy links between two people, forged by needs, awkward obligation, or attachment). Cross everyone off your inner to-do lists until you’re ready to actually communicate.
  • Release emotional investment in information or events turning out to your liking.
  • Be willing to be wrong and open to being surprised.

Use these effective energy-clearing devices to throw off energy from external sources and clarify your energy. 

What do YOU do to clear your energy?

What is your biggest challenge with discernment?

18 October 2013 6 Comments

LGS #92, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 5: What Is Mine and What Is Not?, Part 3: Know Yourself to Develop Discernment

LGS #92, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 5: What Is Mine and What Is Not?, Part 3: Know Yourself to Develop Discernment

Discernment makes intuition function clearly in the practical world. As we explored in recent posts, the better we know ourselves the better our discernment.
Here are a few more practical ways to get to know yourself and to develop discernment skills:

Stretch Your Comfort Zone:

At least once a week, see what it feels like to do something you consider out of character. Try taking a stand or telling a joke when you would usually remain silent or visa versa, go somewhere you haven’t been, drive a different route to work, or eat something you have never tried. What you do is not as important as staying awake for opportunities to create more elbow room than your personality and habits usually allow.P1030304

Stretching your comfort zone is a great way to explore who you take yourself to be, and your subconscious limitations. Different sensations come up, showing you who you are underneath your habitual expressions. Acting outside of your script is a great way to get to know your real self. You begin to sense more clearly how your home state and authentic energy FEEL. This clarity supports discernment.

I tend to be withdrawn in social situations. Some years back I went to a party where no one knew me. They were having a talent show. I decided to attend the party as if I were a Leo. I dressed more expressively than I normally would. Instead of withdrawing, I got up on stage read a poem I had written. My objective was to do this with body language that implied that I did it often. I had never spoken on stage, and was in fact mortified.

After I read my poem people began to approach me. From their comments and questions I realized that they assumed I was a more gregarious sort of person, who read on stage often. I had drawn in different sorts than I normally attract. To my surprise I also noticed that I had no idea what to say to them!

I didn’t want to be an impostor, so I just told them what I’d done. The people I usually attract would have found my experiment interesting and discussed it. These people wanted to talk with a poet, so they wandered off. I was confused for a minute, then saw that it didn’t hurt anything to have a brief exchange. It was quite interesting to self-observe through the feelings that arose, and to notice the way my behavior and comfort zone creates relationship.

Try Being Picky:

Being picky about energy can be fun and educational. It can feel really good to keep your energy to and for yourself. Give yourself permission.

  • Get a new cup, bowl or glass and set it aside for your exclusive use. What do you feel if someone handles it. Why? Beyond size, color preference and hygiene there are more reasons so many people want to use “their cup” at work. We may have subtle reasons when we want the same seat, side of the bed, utensils, or pen. Pay attention to your feelings and sensations.
  • See if you can sense what “your spot” feels like, and whether anyone has been there since you were there last.
  • Wash your clothes on their own, without mixing them with someone else’s. See whether they feel more like you.
  • When you sit in a circle or at a table with other people, change your seat location and notice the ways in which you feel different. The entire group will operate differently depending on the geometry of each person’s location. You can “tune” the energy of a group by changing positions until everyone is in the best spot for the group. Doing this as a group is a fun and interesting exercise in energy discernment.

Remember to be gracious to those who remain oblivious of energy.

What are YOU picky about when it comes to energy?

How do you feel when you need to keep your energy clear in a certain way and someone interferes with your efforts because they don’t understand?

12 October 2013 4 Comments

LGS #91, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 5: What Is Mine and What Is Not?, Part 2: Exercises that Develop Discernment

LGS #91, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 5: What Is Mine and What Is Not?, Part 2: Exercises that Develop Discernment

P1030239In discerning what belongs to us and what does not, we may be tempted to spend too much time LOOKING OUT and not enough time LOOKING IN. There are many valid reasons to scan for external energies that may be impacting us. Over-focus on externals sets up a state of hyper-vigilance, from which other people’s energy becomes a constant potential threat.

Always remember that external energies get IN for internal reasons. Discovering exactly how and why we accidentally allow these energies entry develops ever-increasing safety, clarity, and self-awareness.

Here are several experiential exercises for learning to sense and identify energy. These practices will help you begin to recognize your own energy signature:

  • Pay attention to the way your body sensations, emotions and energy change when you get around different people.
  • Notice how you feel before and after a phone call, or after focussing on someone.
  • Learn to sense the way you feel in different places, rooms or spots.
  • Look at or sense the energy on a couch or chair before you sit on it. (I don’t sit in waiting room chairs where people have been in intense distress.)
  • Practice disconnecting your energy from people when you are not around them. (You can keep your heart connected if your lower chakras are not engaged. Attachment, not clean love, causes energy issues.)
  • Pay attention to the way your awareness, emotions, and sensations change when you breathe in and out with your focus on one particular chakra for a period of time. Try this with each energy center.
  • When you are out for a walk, notice exactly how it feels if you pass in between two people who are connected. See if you sense them, and if you feel suddenly different in your emotions, energy or body. Sensations will be most pronounced if the people have strong feelings between them. Walking between a mother and a child can be quite pronounced.
  • Notice what you feel like when no one knows where you are. (I tend to feel better when no one knows my space-time coordinates.) Unless you open to someone by thinking about them or you remain connected, it is much harder to ‘find’ you if you are not in your usual locations.
  • See if you can sense the energy of the person call when your phone rings. Can you tell their mood, general intention, or who it is?
  • Spend time alone without a radio, television, or internet connection.
  • Notice the place inside you that is LESS lonely once you get everyone else out of your head.
  • Verify your intuition whenever possible by checking facts to find out whether you are correct. Learn what accurate intuition feels like in your body. Get familiar with what it feels like if you are NOT correct, and what is going on inside that made your thought or projection seem like intuition.

Here are several links to additional posts that address dealing with external energies:

http://positiveenergyguide.com/healing/dealing-with-external-energies-part-4-the-role-of-clarity-discernment/

http://positiveenergyguide.com/category/healing/boundaries/external-energies/

Under exactly what circumstances do YOU tend to pick up energy from others or lose your discernment?

What personal issues cause you to be vague about your needs in those particular contexts?

27 September 2013 4 Comments

LGS #89, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 3: Using Internal Sensing for Discernment

LGS #89, Developing Discernment and Guidance Skills, Part 3: Using Internal Sensing for Discernment

Having in the last post considered using protocols, let’s take a different approach on the question: How can I tell an emotional issue from a physical one?

Discernment usually begins with a basic, logical scan. Pay attention to onset of symptoms. Trace back in your memory and think about what was going on right before your symptom started. Were you distressed about anything? Could you be upset about something you may have brushed aside? Did you possibly eat something your body doesn’t like, or get exposed to a chemical toxin? These basics are a good place to start.

Remember (as my favorite mentor says): “You can have fleas AND lice!”

Symptoms of physical and emotional issues can be identical. As you practice over time, you will begin to notice that your energy is different when emotional issues are present.

Here are some potential indications of emotional involvement:

  • Your symptoms increase when you focus on them
  • Your shoulders or jaws get tense when you think about it, or your stress level increases
  • Your breath becomes more restricted
  • Your stomach gets tight
  • You sense some resistance to letting go of your symptom
  • Feeling ungrounded, ‘out of your body’ or diffuse
  • Your perception of your issue keeps changing
  • Difficulty concentrating even with adequate blood sugar and sleep (can also indicate exposure to allergens or toxicity)
  • You can’t seem to get around to working on the problem, or keep getting distracted
  • Touch makes you tenser even though the touch is not painful
  • You get really sleepy for no obvious reason
  • You feel antsy irritable, frustrated, unsafe, reactive, defensive, etc.
  • One or more of your chakras are blocked, rotated, or distorted

If an issue doesn’t go away when the physical part is addressed, this may indicate emotional component. For example, back pain remains after the muscles have been balanced and the bones are in place.P1030203

Emotionally-based pain tends to move around. As soon as you address it in one area it pops up in another, unless the underlying emotions are addressed.

If you get clear and calm and still cannot tell whether an issue is physical or emotional, or you cannot get clear and calm, it is a good idea to ask for assistance.

Suppressed Emotion Point:
This gem is useful if you are unsure whether or not you have emotional involvement. Use it also if you know emotion is involved but can’t get in touch with what it’s all about.

  • Tap about once or twice per second at the midline point under your lower lip, above your chin. This point is in the indentation there.
  • Do this for about sixty seconds.
  • Sense whether or not you notice a confirming release of tension, breath, or discomfort.

If emotions are hiding out this protocol helps to make them more assessable. Try this any time you feel stuck.

I have important insights to share about recognizing and working with your own emotions. We will pursue this several posts later.

Discerning between physical and emotional can be challenging when our energy is compromised. We will discuss this issue in the next post.

What is YOUR best way to distinguish between physical and emotional issues?

Which feels more natural for you, using a protocol or the sensing your energy and emotions?